Like most Twenty-something-year-olds, I’m still trying to figure out this thing called: LIFE.
As I approach a milestone birthday, I knew it was time to gain focus and prioritize my life for the next chapter. I didn’t really know where to start, but I have some ideas. I’ll be the first to admit, that by being a media and entertainment professional – social media is a necessary evil. It was also one of my biggest weaknesses. I found myself checking my Instagram and twitter accounts anytime I had: 30 seconds of free time [see also: ALL DAY]. Let’s admit it – social media can make us all very unproductive if we let it. So I decided that it was time for me and GOD to have a 21-day conference and social media was not on the guest list.
I turned off all notifications, removed all apps, and let GOD do the rest.
On Day One, I woke up and immediately reached for my phone…. I can still the disappointment on my face.
Here are the TOP 15 things I learned during my 21-day social media hiatus:
- I’m addicted to social media – I take my phone to the bathroom people #NoJudging
- No one cares – Most people won’t care or even notice.
- Mornings are easier – Waking up in the morning is completely different. What was once, *wakes up & grabs phone to scroll Instagram* is no longer a routine.
- Productivity increased – Without social media filling my free time, I was able to focus on growing my business.
- I was happy – My mind wasn’t filled with depressing news stories from my twitter feed or the distracted by someone’s online relationship drama.
- I care about what people think – Between the 75 different shots of the same selfie pose or editing a Facebook post 7 times, I cared rather I would get likes, loves, or repost. None of that really matters.
- Calling people on the phone is still a “thing” – a few people reached out to me; rather it was because they hadn’t seen me post or genuinely thought of me – it was appreciated.
- I should actually call people more often – texting can’t be the only way you communicate with the people you really care about. It gets very confusing.
- We all have the same 24 hours – Saying “I don’t have time” is a matter of prioritizing. With more free time the past 21 days, I was able to do more on any given day.
- I enjoy being around other people – I used to have dates with Instagram, but I actually loved meeting people and having conversations face-to-face outside of work.
- I’m more optimistic and have positive vibes – I spent a lot of time listening to motivational speeches, TD Jakes sermons, and personal development audio books. I fed my mind with things that I wanted to reflect in my daily walk.
- I was comparing my life to others – Social media is a highlight reel of a person’s life. MOST (used loosely) will only show you the best parts of their life. Without social media, I was able to focus on me.
- I was very judgmental – Don’t act like you haven’t had advice for the girl that made a long post about her baby daddy or the guy saying women don’t like good guys anymore. Now, I have a clearer vision of my goals and could care less about her child support or his next ex-girlfriend.
- I wasn’t working hard enough – By taking some time to focus on me, I found more ways to monetize my talents. We all like extra money, right?!
- I can be selectively ignorant – for nearly a month I missed the foolery of #BlackTwitter and all the #Authur memes. Now I feel that if it doesn’t affect, influence, or empower me, I don’t need to know about it. Anything else is a distraction.
BONUS: I didn’t to find a plug in every restaurant to charge my phone up. Social media apps DRAIN your battery. My phone was happy.
day, week was tough, but now that the break is over, I don’t even desire to be on social media that much anymore. I guess that 21-day rule really works…. Now if I can just apply that to going to the gym, I’d be GREAT!
As always, #SUKG Shut Up Keep Grinding®
– Jada D.